Thursday, November 27, 2014

The Red Queen


I sure have been writing about manipulation and control lately. Theological and Sociological cults and their devastation and destruction in people's lives. 

Here I am again.  Today I am speaking of The Red Queen.   So have you met her?  

Of course, this is not her real name.  If it was, then we could probably avoid her, run screaming, or find another friend.  But if you are related to her...YIKES! is almost impossible to run.

If you do not do what she desires, she may not cut off your head like in Alive in Wonderland, but she sure can mess with your life and those you love.

A song which speaks of "The Red Queen's" danger:

Painting the Roses Red

Painting the roses red
We're painting the roses red
We dare not stop or waste a drop
So let the paint be spread

We're painting the roses red
We're painting the roses red

Painting the roses red
And many a tear we shed
Because we know 
They'll cease to grow
In fact, they'll soon be dead 
And yet we go ahead

Painting the roses red
Painting the roses red
We're painting the roses red 

(then Alice says) 
Oh, pardon me
But mister three
Why must you paint them red? 

Well, the fact is, miss 
We planted the white roses by mistake

The queen 
She likes them red
If she saw white instead
She'd raise a fuss
And each of us would quickly lose his head
Since this is the thought we dread
We're painting the roses red

Oh, dear, then let me help you 
Painting the roses red 

We're painting the roses red 

Don't tell the queen what you have seen 
Or say that's what we said
But we're painting the roses red 

Yes, painting the roses red 
Not pink 
Not green
Not aquamarine 

We're painting the roses red

From "Alice in Wonderland"
Music and Lyrics by Sammy Fain and Bob Hilliard


All kidding real life it is so very difficult if you know a "Red Queen"--- a cruel, controlling, manipulative woman.  Only what she says makes her happy, and you better do it the way she desires and with a smile.  

She is probably very smooth and calculating in how she speaks with you and how she manipulates you.  She is so good at what she does, and this is why we normal people do not realize  we are being controlled and manipulated by her.  

We can go for years, decades, and not realize the truth of "The Red Queen"

Other times we just know that "something is not right", but we can't figure it out.  

On the other hand, if we do realize what has been happening, we have no control to stop her.  We can only distance ourselves, still being affected by her evil, and sadly, watching all the others follow her in their innocence. 

How do you stop a woman like this?  How do you deal with a woman like this?

I have only "escaped" her control, but I have never been able to stop her control.  This does not mean that she hasn't continued to affect my life, my friends, my family, and wreak emotional havoc through and through.

So... "The Red Queen".  Do you know one?  I, unbelievably, know three of them, and each one leaves their evil mark on me and mine. 

LORD, have mercy!

My hope and my strength is in the LORD.  He is my only solution in the devastation.

"Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly 
beyond all that we ask or think, 
according to the power that works within us, 
to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus 
to all generations forever and ever. Amen"

Ephesians 3:20-21 



Anonymous said...

May all of us who have the misfortune of having such a devastating relationship escape the control of the "Red Queen" and learn to walk in our glorious freedom in Christ! He is our shelter in the "red" tempest!


The Piper's Wife said...

Praise the LORD!

Thank you, Carolyn, for your encouragements!

Anonymous said...

You're welcome Jill!