Saturday, April 26, 2014

Train up a child

"Little children, headache; big children heartache"

An Italian Proverb

We raise our children:

"Train up a child in the way he should go,
Even when he is old he will not depart from it."
Proverbs 22:6

This is a principle from God, but it is not a promise.

Many a parent has lovingly raised up their children in God's truth only to see these same beloved children turn from His truth into some kind of deception.  The world is evil and it pulls and pushes at all of us.

I have heard many mothers complaining about their troubles with their little ones.  For them---they are struggling---not realizing the hardest part is coming, and even more difficult is when their children are adults.  This is when we can only watch when they choose poorly.


"I waited patiently for the LORD;
And He inclined to me and heard my cry."
Psalm 40:1

As a parent, how do we wait patiently?  How can we wait calm and patient when our treasured child has chosen a path of destruction?  How can we wait calmly when we can't do anything to help them/stop them?

In Psalm 40:1 the word, "cry" [here] in Hebrew means "scream" (I was told this).  

How appropriate!  When we are waiting patiently for some agony to turn around, we are usually in great anxiety and, at least in our heads, we are screaming, shouting for the LORD to hear and save!


Sisters in the LORD... are you waiting?   Is there a wayward child in your life?  Is there a wayward loved one?  Are you anxious and frustrated and then confused because your "waiting" doesn't seem to be patient?

"Waiting and patient" don't seem to go together.   I encourage you to continue.  Continue to draw near to the LORD who is our comfort.  As your time of waiting ebbs and flows you will learn from Him to wait more calmly.

Waiting is VERY active.  I do not mean "worrying", but waiting.  We wait in the LORD with great expectations because we KNOW He hears our cries.  

Waiting is always full and busy in our heads.  We think and pray and anticipate---no matter how long we wait.  As we learn to wait on Him our waiting becomes more patient. Somehow He works in us, frail and broken us.  We begin to rely on Him more and more. We begin to "see" that our waiting on our "waywards"  is more as He views waiting patiently.  We become more like Christ.

Precious sisters...continue to pray, waiting patiently for the LORD our God is surely hearing our cries, our screams!

Now He was telling them a parable to show that at all times they ought to pray and not to lose heart,saying, 

“In a certain city there was a judge who did not fear God and did not respect man. There was a widow in that city, and she kept coming to him, saying, ‘Give me legal protection from my opponent.’ 

For a while he was unwilling; but afterward he said to himself, 

‘Even though I do not fear God nor respect man,yet because this widow bothers me, I will give her legal protection, otherwise by continually coming she will wear me out.’” 

And the Lord said, “Hear what the unrighteous judge says; 

now, will not God bring about justice for His elect who cry to Him day and night, and will He delay long over them? 

I tell you that He will bring about justice for them quickly. 

However, when the Son of Man comes, will He find faith on the earth?”
Luke 18:1-8


Anonymous said...

My daughter is not a young child, but knowing she's w/ child and not sure how the boyfriend is taking it, is sure painful for a mom. Oh, that she will learn to return to the Lord, and with your prayers help lead her back to know His love and goodness.
I haven't discovered, but incidentally did you write something on natural (/Christian) childbirth? Thanks.

The Piper's Wife said...

Dear grieving mom…I am sorry for the pain over your precious daughter, her boyfriend situation, and her spiritual condition. This fallen world seems to defeat us at every turn, especially concerning our children.

*Continue to cry out to the LORD! Never give up on your child! PRAY! The LORD hears our cries! He is working even when we do not see any changes. We can trust in Him!*

In these difficult situations of life we can probably expect an amount of “time” to pass. The LORD works in our inner person and this takes time. We first must desire to hear Him in His word and listen and trust Him. When we are wayward it usually contains deception in some degree. When we are caught in a web of deception, we do not see truth well. Even people who are extremely logical and intelligent can be deceived.

I say all of this to prepare you for a “fight of your life” for your child and now your grandchild. Your relationship with the LORD is your utmost. You are to continue to draw close to Him in all of the struggles to come.

You are to be doing “your job”—-which is your obedience to Him. You can not make anyone be obedient to you or to the LORD, but you can do "your job". Your life should be full of grace and mercy as you love them no matter what comes.

Philippians 4

I did not write about childbirth. There is actually no such thing as “Christian” childbirth. Lots of home-schoolers and legalistic Christians claim that home-birth is more “holy,” but they have no biblical support for such legalistic burdens imposed on their followers. I have seen only heartache when home-births come from legalistic Christians.

“Natural” birth, whether in the hospital or in the home, is the way God designed us, but because this is a fallen world our bodies don’t always work the way they were designed. Because of this, many women and children have died in childbirth over the centuries. As long as there is no indications of troubles with either the child or the mother, natural birth is best for both mother and child. But it is also wise to have checkups during the pregnancy to discover if there are any problems which may lead to the necessity of hospital birth, or even a caesarian birth.

Meanwhile, grieving mom, I will be praying for you, your precious daughter, and your unexpected, but priceless grandchild. Love them up as treasures from the LORD. Be willing to continually pray and wait on the LORD. Remember that He hears your cries and works on the inner person. This all takes time. May God be glorified!